Hi. I’m Harry Key, and I’ve lived (and continue to live) a rather interesting life. From being a law clerk and bar back in Sydney, to 5 years as an actor in Bollywood, to market research, wedding planning, oyster farming, strip-joint bartending and labouring. Part of that is because I think the secret to life, and to being a good confidence coach, is about experiencing the variety of life. It means I can speak with comfort and authenticity to a wide variety of audiences.
In 2010 I gave up (most) of my scatterbrained, lack-of-career-focussed life and dedicated myself to finding ways of making other people more confident, happy, persuasive and easy to be around. And over the past 6 years, what I’ve found is that most of the secret lies in how we talk – to others and to ourselves. It is upon that which I base my work, helping people develop confidence, gravitas, impact; whatever you want to call it.
I think that we can make others more confident, not by coddling them and telling them nice things (far from it – I think that this can lead to people actually feeling worse about themselves). Not by the verbal version of cooing at them and patting them on the head, but in a wholly different way.
Firstly, from giving people skills, to help improve their posture, vocal projection, inflection, or the way they structure their thoughts into words; and then rather than being ‘nice’, following that up with a fair bit of humorous challenge. The push people out of their comfort zone, in a safe environment, is my greatest skill as a coach, facilitator, trainer – whatever they’re calling it this minute.
Through laughter and learning, people grow.
I’ve also written a book on the topic (with another on the way), called Speak For Yourself, it was published by Pearson, and it’s available on Amazon and on other odd occasions, in bookshops.